Throughout 13 years of my life, I always thought that marriage was very easily done. You fall in love, get married, and live happily ever after. But I was wrong, well, to a certain extent. The falling in love part is still in play, the getting married part will most likely happen, and the happily ever after doesn't quite happen the way we wish it to be.
I'm now 15. The very first time I heard God's name was when I was 13. I encountered God's love when I was 14, gave my life up to Him. Now, here I am. Being with God for a year now, I've learned so many things. I learned the difference between love and lust, the true meaning of this life, God's grace and mercy, and most importantly, the true meaning of love between a man and a woman.
When I was younger, I always thought that everyone falls in love the way the movies portrayed it. You meet, have a bit of drama, have some misunderstanding, and at the end the guy comes running after you. Then you both fall deeply in love with each other, grow old together, and you both live long and a great life. That's all I have ever wanted. But when reality hits, you meet like every other relationship that you have have in the past, you date for maybe a few years, had many ups and downs, finally decide to get married, then you both fight everyday for the rest of your lives and maybe even get a divorce later on. Well, maybe not all this is true but most of the time, being with someone for so long we're going to get so used to them that we're not as afraid to hurt them as someone we barely know.
A true, long lasting, unconditional marriage rarely happens nowadays. It's hard to see those who still stay married because they love that person. In "The Chrysanthemum" and "The Story of an Hour" portrayed marriage so negative. I personally disagree with the two short stories. I find marriage as you, your significant other becoming as one and having the Lord as the foundation of the marriage. Maybe we count the bad things more than the good. Maybe our relationship gets worse due to our behavior that isn't necessary.
Overall, I believe what I know to be true is that marriage isn't something God has put on earth here for us to take advantage of and decide what we could do with it. He gave us the chance to have this oppurtunity so that we could love and be loved by our significant other. He created Adam and Eve because He saw that no man could be alone.
The LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him." Genesis 2:18 (NIV)
Overall, I believe what I know to be true is that marriage isn't something God has put on earth here for us to take advantage of and decide what we could do with it. He gave us the chance to have this oppurtunity so that we could love and be loved by our significant other. He created Adam and Eve because He saw that no man could be alone.
The LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him." Genesis 2:18 (NIV)
Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. Genesis 2:22 (NIV)
I know what you mean when you say you used to think that love and mariage actually happened like it does in movies. I used to think the exact same thing. Then I got into a relationship that has lasted more than a year now, and don't get me wrong, it means a lot to me, but it has also made me realize that all those Disney movies where the "happily ever after" love happens were false. That isn't how love is. At least not any love I have known. Maybe it's my age. I don't know. But I would love to get swept off of my feet by a man who truely loves me and have a happily ever after marriage, because I also believe that marriage should be lasting and based on God. I guess we're both just going to have to wait a little longer.
ReplyDeleteRuny, I loved your blog about marriage. In general, people do not understand what true love is these days. I would say that love is accepting that person no matter how many things they do to get on your nerves :) or how many things they do right/wrong. If you love them you wont let those few small things make a difference.
ReplyDeleteGod is love. If you know Him then you know what real love is, because the bible says He is love. So how can you have marriage without love and then how can you have love without God. Its just like you said, He is the foundation of marriage. I know that some people would disagree, but that is just my opinion. Everybody is certainly entitled to their own.
I also liked how you backed up your comment with scripture. When you said God made marriage for a purpose and He put Adam and Eve together. Those verses supported your comment. Good blog:)